If you’ve been around my Instagram for any length of time, you know this past year was one of our hardest. You also know that we were loved on and provided for in the craziest ways by God’s faithful hand covering us. My heart has been forever changed and it beats hard for hospitality…to extend the same community and standing in the gaps in real life for others, the way we experienced it because ya’ll, everyone deserves that. Especially those in crisis, but gosh isn’t that just humanity? To relate and be known and love anyways. this is the driving force behind the thoughtful mod podge on canvas I put together.
Im pretty sure we all wrote goals for the year a few weeks ago when reflecting was at a peak and looking forward was filled with hope and ambition. A few weeks into the year though, some goals already fall to the side and we chalk it up to lack of importance or maybe its not for this year. But more often than not its really because habits didn’t change and if there is one thing I know, its if you want different results, you have to build different habits.
So…here are a few frameworks I’ve put in place that are helping keep my goals this year on track. Im no expert, all I can do is share whats working for me, and maybe it works for you too.
:: H O M E ::
- I want our home vibe to be calm and collected but vibrant with life and love. Those aren’t mutually exclusive. We are simplifying “things” and giving what we keep a space. Its easier for things to get back to where they need to go when they aren’t fighting for ranks. Clutter instantly makes my mind go haywire and with three kids it can pile up quick. I don’t want to miss their childhood though because I’m so busy picking up after it. I want to enjoy it with them, and simplifying/organizing has been helping that so much.
- The other big pieces of Home are establishing routines. Morning routine and night routine. Bedtime, wake time. Those two have been missing since pregnancy insomnia with Canaan and it has made a huge impact. So he still gets a medicine and a dream feed bottle at 10p.m. and after that, I go straight to bed. Prior to that I read minimum 15 min., wash my face, brush teeth, get ready for bed. Mornings are challenging for me…I’m not by nature a morning person but its also our hardest, and i mean HARDEST part of day. My oldest shares my apathy towards mornings and so moods are sometimes high. Me getting up before them, reading my Bible, writing a little, gets my mind in the right space to set the tone for everyone else. The have an OK to WAKE clock so until its green, they don’t come out. This time in the morning is protected so I need to take advantage it.
:: H O S P I T A L I T Y ::
- Im doing a Bible Study right now thats studying the biblical definition and example of hospitality, and its much less social entertaining and much more vulnerability. Choosing to live vulnerably with others. A lifestyle of giving and loving, of listening not to solve everyones problems but listening to just love them in their problem. Giving because you have intentionally made margin so you have the bandwidth to do that, when ever it presents itself. Its been so good. So my ultimate goal for Home, really for life, is to live hospitably.
Some other general goals on my board are health, getaways with my love, and work. To me those don’t happen in the way they need to unless the framework within Home and Hospitality are in place. I can’t work out consistently if my body is dead dog tired because I’m being irresponsible with my time. I cant have getaways with my love unless we have built in financial margin to do so, kept our home in order so when we leave it and our kids to someone else its not chaos. And work is just work unless there is purpose behind it…for me, I don’t want to just build a business to make money, I want it to bless and love well.
:: L I V E W E L L - L O V E W E L L ::
Thats my heart for this year! Full, eyes beaming with anticipation and a watchful heart. Some practical things we’ve done to make it happen…
:: P R A C T I C A L S T E P S ::
- Budget - Corie Clark’s Purposeful Planner is amazing for this. We also use Greenlight cards for an electronic envelope system of sorts and its been working really well. Its a little tricky to set up because its intended for kids allowances but where there is a will, there is a way. Its been awesome! The Every Dollar app is fantastic to track purchases and real time progress.
- Simplify - we have gone through each room and just purged anything we don’t need, have not used in six months, or just don’t like. We have organized sentimentals, drawers, and closets maximizing the storage we do have. Less is more is really so true. Think Marie Kondo - does it spark joy?
- Time - I read a quote that said “we become how we use our time.” Gosh I love that! Its helpful to write down your non negotiables…what are the things that you absolutely don’t want to sacrifice. The things that if you are so dang busy, always get done. Then make decisions with your time to support that. If sleep is a struggle, Id start with a consistent bedtime. Draw a line in the sand. Its worth it. And if kids aren’t sleeping, welp, there is an oil for that (for real!)
- Podcasts - They are keeping my brain forward moving. I’ve loved Donald Miller’s Building and Brand Story and also, How I Built That. Both so good!
- Reading - Even if its 15 min here and there, it is so huge to give your mind some unwind time.
Im no expert on time management or goal setting. I’m not a life coach but these have been helping us a lot and we have our sights set on some big things this year. I want to at least look back and know I gave it my best go! Don’t you?